I spent a wonderful, tropical vacation with a close friend this spring and we had a blast! It was wonderful “me time” celebrating her birthday and catching up with each other’s lives. It made me think about women and how we impact each other’s lives. Whether negative or positive, we are a bond that seals emotional life force.
As we lay on the beach talking about life, our goals, and of course, men, we asked ourselves, am I a “Ride or Die Chick”? The definition of a “Ride or Die Chick” is a woman who isn’t afraid to be down with her man. She’ll do anything her man needs her to do such as, “we was fighting in the store and my girl was a ride or die chick,” which only yields rewards to the man.
I realized emphatically I am NOT a “Ride or Die Chick”. I am a “Want It All” kind of a woman – love, passion, butterflies in my stomach, great sex, respect, and an adoration of me that comes from a man that only God can give him. I am not a woman from a rap song. I am a beautiful creation from God for His purpose.
For all of my sisters, especially those 50 and older, know that you are “the bomb.” You command your destiny and live the life you have chosen. Choose to be. Choose to feel and be sexy, and if you do not feel sexy because you have let yourself go, get in shape and love the woman who stands on the other side of the mirror you look in every morning. There is only one of you and even though you see flaws, stretch marks, wrinkles or sags here and there, you are a sensual woman that can mess up any real man’s mind. I know I am in my 60’s and I am still doing it.
I know we live in a time where if you are more than 30 years old, then it is over, but you need not compete with youth. Age is just a number so work what you do have. Embrace your age, flaws and gifts. Love what you do in your profession. If you do not, find your passion and grow in it. There is nothing more beautiful than a seasoned woman who has her act together, and struts every step with an “I know I look good” confidence. Be comfortable in your own skin.
My bottom line: Women, wake up! You do not need to live for anyone. Live for yourself. I am alarmed by conversations I hear between women when they are discussing men. It frightens me when I hear young and older women discussing the men in their lives. “I know my man is seeing someone else, but I am there for him. Maybe it is something I am doing wrong,” or “I know he talks to me like I am dirt, but I know he loves me.” Really!? One of the most frightening conversations I overheard between four young women discussing sex was how their man did not like to use protection, so they go along with unprotected sex because they love him and want to please. Definitely “Ride or Die Chicks.” We need to learn that we are vibrant creatures, weak in some areas and strong in others. Love is not a weakness or a flaw. It is strength and should be reciprocated.
We bare children and many of us raise them without husbands. We mentor others while striving to be whole. We sacrifice to help a friend and give of ourselves when we are in need. Do not compromise yourself or integrity for anyone. We are the wonders of the world. Own it and live it!
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