When thinking about attractiveness, most of us tend to think of the outside, while actually attraction comes from the inside. Yes, you can fall for someone’s beautiful black eyes, or be impressed by long, wavy, curly hair. But true attraction is an energy and is not merely what you see at first glance.
Feeling attractive is one of the most important tools to help you get anything you want and want to accomplish in an easy and flowing way. You will feel deserving of everything you want. And when you’re in this state, what you want can find its way to you automatically. Feeling attractive feels like you’re on a roll and in a relaxed state. From this state, it is easy to get things done. Feeling attractive makes you ooze positivity, which makes it very pleasurable being around you, for others and for yourself.
Before I go over to the seven tips, you have to determine what attractive is to you. To me it is being calm, happy, confident, daring, healthy and fresh.
Two real life, well-known people who embody this are Pharrell Williams and Solange Knowles. Of course, they were not last in line when good looks were handed out, but actually what I love about them is that I can see, through their eyes, attractiveness coming from inside out. They look healthy and glowing and take good care of themselves. They feel grounded and have that oomph, that je ne sais quoi, and I’m curious if others also see that particular look in their eyes, that “I know something you don’t know” look, and it is something extremely nice.
So once you’ve decided what is attractive to you, this is your go-to description. This is your goal and the seven steps you’re about to undertake will steer you to your version of attractiveness.
Undertake these seven tips for 30 days. Why 30? Because that is the amount of days it takes for new behavior to become habitual.
- Start this journey from an acceptable baseline.
Before you can do anything, you have to make sure you’re at an acceptable point to take on this “challenge”, if you will. If you are down and out and feeling very out of it, first get back on the horse. Go on a holiday, to a hairdresser, subscribe to a gym, whatever it takes. If you are at that baseline, it is easy for you to bring out the most attractive version of yourself.
- Do something with your body each morning
Every morning , do something with yourself that involves your whole body for at least 30 minutes. If seven days a week is too much for you, then do it only weekdays, so five days a week. This something has to be easy enough to realize and hard enough to make it feel like an accomplishment. For example, I go jogging every weekday. And if I’m too tired to jog, I take a walk in the park, no matter the weather. Or you could also give yourself a full body massage every weekday or go swim. Doing this will make you create a strong bond with yourself.
- Use body language to tell the tale you want to tell
What do you want people to see when they look at you? What do you want to tell without speaking? This is a very nice and helpful TedX talk on this subject by Amy Cuddy:
- Eat clean and use clean products
With clean, I mean as close to nature as possible. If you eat something, make sure it isn’t processed too much and you can still see what it was before it became your food. And the products you put on your body, if possible, should be edible. If you can eat it, then it is safe to put on your body. Eating and using clean products will cause your body to perform in its best way without being disturbed by processes to break down foods or bad chemicals it does not want inside it.
- Wear clothes that make you feel attractive
And I’m not talking about cleavages here. I’m talking fabrics and forms. For example, hard, tough cotton shirts have a whole different feel on your body than soft and silky feeling shirts. A long, wavy skirt has a very different feel on your body than stiff baggy jeans, although I can feel attractive in those, combined with a beautiful top and high heels. If budget is a concern, then check out some second hand shops. Even better because you do not add to the ever growing pile of “things”.
- Wear make-up
Yes, this is about the outside. But the outside is allowed to help the inside. If you look the part, you will feel the part. And it will add the finishing touch. Sometimes, when I have an off day, which I know is hard to imagine, I have some heavy artillery I use to lift me up. And it always works. I put on my favorite red or pink lipstick and I make an effort of doing my hair. When I’m done, I feel like I can handle anything and everything.
- Do what is best for you
This is one of the most important tips. You know what is best for you, nobody else does. You came into this world by yourself and you will go out by yourself so you better make sure you first and foremost do what you want. This will help you rely solely on yourself, which makes you feel strong.
So there you go! Seven steps that will get you to the most attractive version of yourself. I’d love to hear how you go or your tips on this subject!