{"id":2152,"date":"2014-03-13T09:30:30","date_gmt":"2014-03-13T14:30:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lovingonme.com\/?p=2152"},"modified":"2017-05-10T13:45:56","modified_gmt":"2017-05-10T18:45:56","slug":"4-ways-to-establish-boundaries-for-optimal-health-and-well-being","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/2014\/03\/13\/4-ways-to-establish-boundaries-for-optimal-health-and-well-being\/","title":{"rendered":"4 Ways to Set Boundaries for Optimal Health and Well-Being"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Canbdle<\/a>I will and I can create healthy habits. It is not enough to acquire healthy boundaries. One must acquire healthy behavior change.\u00a0We live in a time where we are constantly on the go, working long hours, and raising our children, but that should not stop us from living in optimal health and tranquility.\u00a0Learning about behavior change and how we can implement it in our lives is tantamount if change is going to occur.<\/p>\n

Just as we learn to play golf, tennis or chess, each new behavior towards a healthier lifestyle needs practice and lots of it until it becomes second nature.\u00a0A slip here and there is part of the behavior change process and hopefully we learn from our mistakes and continue to move forward. Changing bad behavior is not easy, but we are worth the work to make the change.\u00a0Let\u2019s find time to live better, pamper the spirit, and nurture the soul.\u00a0We must learn to think differently to behave differently.<\/p>\n

When I think about my own story, I came to a period in my life where I had to learn how to revise my boundaries and guidelines to work toward optimal health.\u00a0I was older and divorced, I owned a business, and my world changed completely.\u00a0I had so much chaos in my life, I could barely complete a single thought.\u00a0My knowledge of wellness and best practices were not kicking in. Finally, I had to stop and reaffirm control of my life, which included living healthier, losing weight, and knowing that I am one person. I cannot do it all, but I can do it right.<\/p>\n

I finally got to a place of one-day-at-a-time, not one month, or one year.\u00a0I took the pressure off myself and learned that time was not my enemy, it is a gift. I needed to stop wishing precious time away that God had given me.<\/p>\n

I now start my day with thanking God for waking me up every morning. I put on wonderful music and dance and exercise\u00a0into the kitchen and prepare a healthy breakfast instead of going straight to my computer to start working. I got back in the habit of exercising at least 4-5 times a week. I travel and spend time with family and friends I love; and I ask God for patience to die to the flesh when I want to choke someone for their arrogance or stupidity (deep breathing also works in this situation).\u00a0These were new boundaries and lifestyle behavior changes I needed to carve out as I moved into a new decade of my life.\u00a0The old ones did not fit anymore.\u00a0Today, I take time for self-care, to live, play, eat, sleep, and be a little naughty and sometimes nice.\u00a0My life is not perfect, but it feels good.\u00a0I love being a woman and love being in control of my life, health and wealth.<\/p>\n

Here are some personal\u00a0tips for healthy living that one can use in daily practice.<\/p>\n

1. Willpower:\u00a0Know There is a Way<\/b><\/p>\n

It is the crux of motivation, inspiration and self-control.\u00a0 It is as much an action toward a goal as it is an action, such as preventing yourself from doing something you might regret later.\u00a0Willpower and self-control drive positive affirmation.<\/p>\n

2. Assertiveness<\/b><\/p>\n

You can be passive, aggressive or assertive in your behavior. We want to be assertive, holding our own and making clear, healthy choices. We live in a time where the world has so much to offer.\u00a0We must learn to be assertive to get what we need and want.<\/p>\n

3. Self-Esteem <\/b><\/p>\n

Willpower is important to maintain healthy boundaries, but self-esteem is equally essential. Like willpower, self-esteem is a unique alchemy of confidence, courage, humility and self acceptance.\u00a0Staying in optimal health is a major way to boost self-esteem.\u00a0You feel good and look good.<\/p>\n

4. Time Management<\/b><\/p>\n

Remember, this component of healthy boundaries involves taking time to practice healthy boundaries. We commit, but do not follow through.\u00a0If we don\u2019t take the time, our best intentions go to waste.\u00a0Organize your day to incorporate “me” time, even if it\u2019s just sitting down quietly for 20 minutes. It always begins with you.<\/p>\n

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