{"id":14563,"date":"2019-04-30T12:56:50","date_gmt":"2019-04-30T17:56:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/?p=14563"},"modified":"2019-04-30T13:00:52","modified_gmt":"2019-04-30T18:00:52","slug":"are-you-sure-thats-a-priority","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/2019\/04\/30\/are-you-sure-thats-a-priority\/","title":{"rendered":"Are You Sure That’s a Priority?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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If you ever want to just stress yourself out for some ridiculous reason, watch A YouTube video of plate spinners. You know, those magic acts where someone runs around frantically balancing multiple plates on top of poles? If that crazy spectacle hits too close to home, it\u2019s time to get real about setting your priorities. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know by now that work-life\nbalance is a myth, right? Trying to juggle the myriad responsibilities that\ncome your way like a crazy magician spinning plates just leaves us exhausted,\nguilty and underperforming in key areas. The answer is to focus on becoming a balanced person <\/em>by using your personal\nempowerment to choose your priorities based on your values. And then exercise\nyour authority to unapologetically live them.  \n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prioritizing your priorities is a manifestation of self-love that will enable you to find personal balance, power, peace and possibility. Let\u2019s talk about how to make it happen. Here’s 7 steps to figuring out what\u2019s really important and finding your balance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Align priorities with your values and\nvision.<\/strong> Invest quiet\ntime in tuning into your most important values. When you know what is critical to\nyou as a person, you can gauge if your priorities are in sync with your values\nand if they\u2019re moving you further in your desired direction.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Be a decision maker.<\/strong> Too often, we paralyze ourselves\nwith fear of making the wrong choice or cutting off options. But values-based\npriority setting requires real choices. It can help to use the 3-3-3 rule,\nasking yourself, \u2018Will this be important to me in three days, three weeks or\nthree years?\u2019 Often, something that seems weighty in the moment doesn\u2019t have\nlong-term impact. Cut that one free and focus on those that really matter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consider your life season.<\/strong> There is so much pressure to do\neverything and be everything right now. But the season of your life can provide\ngreat inspiration and direction for priority setting. Maybe you don\u2019t have time\nto learn French while working full time and raising three little kids. Resolve\nto enjoy the heck out of your kids now and commit to learning French when they grow\nmore independent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get specific.<\/strong> This is my favorite part because\nit\u2019s how we bring our priorities to life. Getting specific enables you to\noutline how you will show up and meet your priorities. Many people see family\nas a priority, for example. But what exactly does that mean to you at this\nstage of life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In my life, I have prioritized time with my parents. I make\nit specific and put it into action by committing to visiting one weekend each quarter.\nThat\u2019s realistic for me and enables both me and them to plan.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stop over-committing. <\/strong>If you can\u2019t say no, you can\u2019t set\npriorities. You have to make choices. Renowned leadership consultant and\nbest-selling author, Brian Tracy, says a lot of our stress comes from working\non low-priority tasks. When you actually spend your time doing what you value\nmost, stress disappears. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at work, you don\u2019t always have to say yes. Show your\nboss how a low-priority task will take your attention and productivity away\nfrom a high-priority project with a much bigger payoff. At home, considering\nyour life season can halt excessive volunteering. You may have volunteered a\nlot in the past and can again in the future even if you can\u2019t make that a\npriority today.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Discover dabbling. <\/strong>This one may sound counter-intuitive,\nbut when you enjoy the calming structure of strong priorities, you get a little\nfreedom to dabble now and then.  So, you\ncan\u2019t study French right now, but you can Netflix a French movie with English\nsubtitles, enjoy dinner at a French restaurant or, what the heck, grab a\ncroissant with your French Roast to go.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Remove pain and guilt.<\/strong> Sharing your priorities eliminates\nguilt and that constant sense that you aren\u2019t doing enough because it creates\nrealistic expectations for you and others. My parents look forward to our quarterly\nvisits rather than wondering when they\u2019ll see me next. Your daughter will feel\nconfident knowing you\u2019ll be there for Saturday soccer games and comfortable\ncarpooling with others for weeknight practices. Your boss can count on you to clear\nout end-of-day emails once your kids go to bed and understand you need to leave\nthe office by five. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Knowing, setting and keeping\nvalues-based priorities boosts your sense of self-worth and self-love as it\nincreases productivity, decreases stress and points you in the direction of\nyour dreams. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

TAKE YOUR NEXT STEP NOW!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It really is possible to live your life focused on your most critical\npriorities and to enjoy a greater sense of personal balance and contribution.\nPick up a copy of <\/em>Be Bold. Be Brilliant. Be You.<\/em><\/a> and let\u2019s walk that\njourney together with specific action steps that point the way.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If you ever want to just stress yourself out for some ridiculous reason, watch A YouTube video of plate spinners. You know, those magic acts where someone runs around frantically balancing multiple plates on top of poles? If that crazy spectacle hits too close to home, it\u2019s time to get real about setting your priorities. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":14565,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"sharing_disabled":false,"switch_like_status":false,"spay_email":"","footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"You know work-life balance is a myth, right? Become a balanced person by using your personal empowerment to choose your priorities and unapologetically live by them."},"categories":[204997546,114917237],"tags":[57310],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Now-or-Later.jpg","jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4eAxC-3MT","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14563"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14563"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14563\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14567,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14563\/revisions\/14567"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14565"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14563"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14563"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lovingonme.com\/2017\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14563"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}